Healing is not a linear process. Healing is messy. It’s tears and heartbreak and never really being sure where you fit in- never really being sure where you’re going. But healing is also getting better, slowly but surely. It’s knowing that no matter how many steps back you take, the steps you take forward still slowly put you ahead.
Healing is realizing that while you are more than your mental illness, you also are your mental illness. It does not define you, and yet it does. You would not be you without it, but that does not mean it has to rule your life.
I am a crazy person.
I have generalized anxiety disorder. I have social anxiety. I have obsessive compulsive disorder. I have depression. I have had eating disorders. I have self-harmed. I potentially have aspergers syndrome. All of this defines me, and has made me who I am. None of this defines me, in that I am more than the sum of my parts.
I am a crazy person.
But I can be other things, too. Those things do not and will not negate the fact that I am a crazy person, but they will also shape who I am.
And accepting all of that is part of healing.
Healing is accepting the things you cannot change- accepting that this thing will be with you forever, that it is what it is- and changing the things you can. It’s making yourself the best you possible, without pushing yourself past what you can be.
Healing is understanding your limits.
It’s knowing what you can do alone, and asking for help when you need it. It’s not suffering through panic attacks and anxiety attacks silently, not suffering alone.
It’s understanding your wants and needs and knowing what you are allowed.
It’s difficult.
A lot of the time, it feels like it would be easier to just give up, to just stay where you are and live with your problems as they exist now.
But healing is knowing that you can’t do that. That you have to keep pressing forward, slowly but surely.
Healing is slow. It is long. Sometimes it feels like you’re not making any progress at all. But you have to know that you are, and that it will eventually get better.
Eventually it will feel better.